We have all heard of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and how challenging it can be in a person’s life. As a society, we have become more concerned with the types of abuse faced by children and how it can potentially negatively impact the rest of their life. We talk about PTSD in relation to abuse, natural disasters, war, and any number of other events that overwhelm a person’s ability to cope. However, PTSD just came into formal diagnosis in 1980, with the DSM-3, but its existence is much older than that. Professionals first began to examine post-traumatic stress when they noticed a set of similar symptoms that interfered in the daily lives of young men returning from the Vietnam War, but its existence is still older than that. Traumatic experiences have been part of the human experience as long as there have been humans on the planet, and from those experiences, our world has grown into what it is today. In other words, those events that we think of as life-ruining may be better described as life-altering as the experiences may negatively and positively change a person.
Post-traumatic growth can be seen as a positive change in a person as a result of trauma that supports the return to an improved level of functioning.
For parents, foster parents, educators, and caregivers dealing with the challenging after-effects of trauma on a child it may difficult to imagine there may be something good that can come out of all these struggles. Psychologists refer to this positive outcome as post-traumatic growth (PTG) and it has been growing as an area of research in the past 10 years. Post-traumatic growth is defined as positive psychological change experienced as a result of adversity and other challenges in order to rise to a higher level of functioning. It occurs when an event challenges a person’s core beliefs and causes significant struggles that ultimately lead the person to gain a deeper understanding and ultimately grow from their experiences. This does not deter from the experience of trauma but offers a person a different perspective to work through it. For more in-depth information you can read here.
There are 5 areas by which PTG are defined:
- Appreciation of life
- Relationship with others
- New possibilities in life
- Personal strength
- Spiritual change
Examples of PTG
One of the most notable recent examples of post-traumatic growth came in the aftermath of the Parkland school shootings. These can easily be seen as an even that rocked core beliefs (school is a safe place), caused psychological distress (grief, confusion), and ultimately lead to growth and advocacy (March for Our Lives). ABC News did a story on how some victims demonstrated the above areas of growth, which was again emphasized in a post from Shrink Tank.
There are other notable examples of trauma turned advocacy and growth. When a mother gets the call that her 13-year-old child has died because a drunk driver with a long history of DWI hit her, she begins a campaign to prevent other parents from experiencing her pain. When the core belief that the legal system keeps us safe is shattered and causes extreme emotional distress of anger, grief, and confusion the result is the creation of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD).
Another example is when a 6-year-old child shopping with his mother, ends up missing from the Atari section and later his decapitated head is found but not the rest of his body with no killer ever convicted a father work to improve how the cases of missing children are managed from the micro to the macro level. When the core belief that the world is a safe place results in pain, grief, and frustration the result is the Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
PTG as Resiliency and Hope
It is important to note that no one, not even a trauma-based therapist, can force post-traumatic growth in a child. What they, and caregivers, can do is foster areas that contribute to PTG and support a child’s efforts to grow. As a caregiver or important person in a child’s life, there are several things you can do to encourage post-traumatic growth.

- Be consistent and involved enhances an appreciation for life and relationships with others.
- This does not just mean attending scout meetings or going to parent-teacher conferences. It means putting down your phone and being attentive to whatever nonsensical story it is really important they tell you right now. Not just listen but sit down, look them in the eye, and really hear they have to say. Ask questions, keep the conversation going, remember what they say for later. Validate their feelings even when it doesn’t make sense to you. It doesn’t have to, it’s not your feelings.
- It also means taking an interest in their interests, even if it doesn’t interest you. Take time to ask about it. Pursue information about it on your time and surprise them with what you know. How better to show someone you care than taking the time to find out about what they like. And don’t just learn about it, try it. It’s okay to let that teenage boy humiliate you in a game of Rocket League if you took the time to learn some of the terms and spent the time playing with them.

- Introducing new things and give to the
community can build on new life-possibilities and strength
- One of the biggest things I see working with young children in an inpatient setting is their wonderment at new things. Doing things like going to the zoo, visiting a park or walking in the woods, playing board games together, or riding bikes have been brand new experiences to more than half of them. Group activities like sports and clubs are also new experiences, and when they discover something they love and are good at, a whole new world of possibilities opens up for them. They may need some gentle support to get out there, but getting out there can be a good place to be.
- Another activity that can be helpful is the act giving back. It is inherent in human nature to want to contribute in some way, and children are no different. From collecting pet items and delivering them to the SPCA to becoming peer advocates youth find a way to take their negative experiences and help others. They don’t need to start a foundation or solve world hunger, but they know what it feels like to have a need that’s not meeting met. Sometimes the best way to heal that need for yourself is to do it for others.
Post-traumatic stress is a newer concept in mental health and even newer in relating it to children. What studies thus far have shown is not everyone experiences PTG, but there are ways to support a traumatized child that may foster it. And we have seen real examples. What’s amazing is once the growth begins there is no way to know just how far it will go.














